Match day feels like yesterday!
I can't believe that some of our friends (and some of you!) will soon be gathering in an auditorium, hearing their name announced and opening a letter that will change their life. It seems so close that it still gives me goose bumps thinking about it.
The morning of Match, a lot of our friends gathered together, cooked a huge breakfast and chatted. Anything to ease the tension of the looming ceremony just hours away. A ceremony that from that day forward, would determine not only where we were going to live, but also the program that my husband would receive his medical training at, my career, our church home, community, and where we would potentially begin a family. I took a long run that morning, and I remember running through every scenario in my head. Each program we ranked, how our lives may look there, what that would mean for us - like taking mini-snapshots of out future based on what was in that little white envelope. I lived on zillow.com, having houses picked out in the cities of our top five choices. So much time, money and energy invested in the past four years- all to arrive at that point.
The pictures from match day make me laugh, we both look like we've gotten such little sleep. Somehow the worry inside crept to the surface and is all over my face. (As well as the bet Kyle made about having a disgusting looking beard. Promise he doesn't always look like a creeper!)
The best advice I could give a couple who is currently marking off the calender until March 15th is this:
Regardless of if you are overly ecstatic about where you land or if you are incredibly disappointed, it's where you will be. Period. At this point, it's 99.9% out of your control. It's you're new home to thrive in! It's a new opportunity!! Discover a new city, settle where you already are, meet new friends or connect with old ones. To have this mindset will completely change your approach to the upcoming months of change. I wish I had reminded myself of this more often!
Although we landed where we wanted, we still miss being in Charlottesville. Everyday. Want to know a secret? I wasn't ready to leave. But, there was no more waiting, no delaying the process. Life and career choices were moving us north and there was no stopping that freight train. There may always be somewhere else that you could see yourself or your spouse, circling the what if's or if onlys. At the end of the day, I've learned that you have to dig in and dig deep where you are.
I look back on the run that I took the morning of our Match Day, and smirk to myself at my worries. My nerves were on edge, my heart beat faster than normal. There is only so much you can control in life, and this process is a good preview of what residency looks like: we don't have control.
Match Day is just the beginning of a tremendous amount of decisions and change, probably some shock too! You're settling together, building a life together, and encouraging one another to get through a HUGE new chapter. LIVE IT UP.
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